Everyone’s trying to switch things up for the New Year – you know, fitness, career, overall wellbeing and all that jazz. But, wait: what about your sex life? If one of your New Year’s resolutions is to get down and dirty more, here’s how to spice things up a little in the bedroom.
Vibease vibrator
Believe in playtime
Sex toys aren’t just for flying solo — introduce them to the bedroom and you might feel a lot better during the ride (sorry, bad pun). According to a study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, “women with positive beliefs (of using erotic toys in the bedroom) who had used vibrators in the past 30 days (prior to the study) reported higher levels of arousal, lubrication, orgasm and sexual satisfaction, and lower levels of pain during sex, than those with positive beliefs who hadn’t used the sex toys as recently.”
Don’t own one, or looking for a new plaything? Check out the recently launched LUNA Smart Bead by Lelo – meant to be worn internally, this toy comes with touch sensors that record every squeeze and movement in order to develop a routine that meets your needs and to help measure your orgasm potential.
Then there’s Vibease. Dubbed the world’s first wearable smart vibrator, this hands-free vibrator works in sync with your favourite erotic stories. Imagine listening to Fifty Shades of Grey and getting some real pleasure out of it with a toy that reacts to every whip and thrust. Mmmhmm…
Amp it up with apps
Speaking of sex and technology, download Spreadsheets if you’ve always been curious to know just how well you perform in bed. Just open the app, leave it on the bed (or wherever the magic happens), and it’ll record data like duration, total thursts, and even the highest decibel reached. Try it long-term and you’ll be able to see graphs and numbers for your performance, stamina, and pleasure. As user Danny Wax puts it: “Spreadsheets was created to approach sex in a way that’s both light-hearted and improvement oriented.” In other words, it’s raunchy fun with numbers.
Honey Birdette
Focus on what’s inside
Who doesn’t want to look like a goddess in bed? Lingerie always does the trick (obvs makes him go crazy, too), but you know by now that not all undergarments are made equal. Our picks: Honey Birdette and Change. Australian brand Honey Birdette is all about being bold, sensual, and super seductive, while Danish brand Change caters to ladies with bigger cup sizes (goes up to size K) and is a little more subtle, but sexy nonetheless. Take your pick.
[Image by Flickr user Joel Nilsson Nelson]
Bend over
We’re talking about yoga here. Sure, increased flexibility is one major plus point, but studies have shown that yoga is great for sex and may even help treat (and prevent) sex problems. Find it hard to believe? Read this article published in Psychology Today, which points out the link between deep relaxation and increased blood flow, as well as yoga and (even more) amazing orgasms.
If you need help getting started, here are some yoga poses to try (check out the bridge and plow specifically).
Watch porn together
Yes, do it. Be open to being open with each other because recent studies suggest the couple that watches porn together, stays together. According to Scientific American, the results of a study published in the Journal of Sex and Martial Therapy revealed “women whose partners were honest about pornography use reported higher levels of relationship satisfaction and lower levels of distress”. Isn’t it so much better than sneaking around? Also, think about all the naughty ideas you could pick up…
If you need an entry-level option, 50 Shades of Grey will be out in theatres come 13 February 2015. That’s definitely gonna put both of you in mood.
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